People in abusive relationships are often isolated from their community, friends and family. Keeping you away from people who can help and support you is a way an abuser takes and maintains control over you.
An abusive person can stop you from applying for jobs and earning money.
- They might make you feel guilty about wanting to work.
- They might try and ruin your confidence by telling you you’re not good enough or smart enough to get a job.
Not having a job takes away your financial independence and means you have to rely on your abuser for everything. It limits your ability to leave a bad or dangerous situation.
In some cases, an abuser will actively block your ability to work.
- They might show up at your workplace and make a scene.
- They might call your boss or coworkers and tell them untrue or embarrassing things about you.
- They might hide your keys so you can’t drive to work, or take your money so you can’t pay for transport.
How to recognise domestic or family violence
Abuse affects women and men, and takes many forms:
You can experience abuse from different people:
- your partner
- your children
- your parents
- other family members
- your boss or other people in powerful positions in your life
Every person has the right to live their life free from abuse and violence.
You can get help
Call 000 if you are in danger.
If you get an income support payment and you need to leave a violent relationship, you could get a crisis payment from Centrelink.
Free social work services, counselling and emergency assistance is also available for people experiencing family and domestic violence.
- Get 24/7 counselling and support from 1800RESPECT – 1800 7373 732
- Call a Centrelink social worker on 132 850 between 8am to 5pm Monday to Friday
- Call Lifeline at any time on 13 11 14, or chat online 7 days a week from 7pm to midnight.
- MensLine Australia offers 24/7 counselling online for men. Call 1300 78 99 78.
- Relationships Australia can link you to counselling and family violence prevention programs in your local area. Call 1300 364 277.